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Ibn Mubarak On Character: You Need Manners More Than Knowledge

Ibn ‘Asakir reported: Ibn al-Mubarak, may Allah have mercy on him, said to the people of hadith,

“You are in greater need of a little manners than a great deal of knowledge.”

Source: Tarikh Dimashq 32918

Ibn al-Qayyim said:

“The reality of manners is that it results from beautiful character. Thus, manners is the externalization of the integrity and strength in one’s inward disposition into action.”

Source: Madarij al-Salikin 2/361

Good character, morals, and manners are the heart of Islam. All of the Islamic sciences are directed towards refining people’s inward and outward behavior and their relationship with Allah and humanity at large. Ethics has its own science in Islam and, in reality, is the most important science to precede all other advanced fields of knowledge.

It has been established from the Prophet (PBUH) and his companions that the transmission of ethical knowledge is an essential objective of the religion of Islam.

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

إِنَّمَا بُعِثْتُ لِأُتَمِّمَ صَالِحَ الْأَخْلَاقِ

Verily, I have only been sent to perfect righteous character.

Source: Musnad Ahmad 8729, Grade: Sahih (authentic)

Al-Dahhak, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

السَّيِّدُ الْحَسَنُ الْخُلُقِ

The head of the matter is good character.

Source: Makarim al-Akhlaq lil-Khara’iti 524

Hence, every rule, concept, and practice in Islam is meant to ultimately affect our inward and outward behavior.

Ibn al-Qayyim writes:

الدِّينُ كُلُّهُ خُلُقٌ فَمَنْ زَادَ عَلَيْكَ فِي الْخُلُقِ زَادَ عَلَيْكَ فِي الدِّينِ

The religion itself is entirely good character, so whoever surpasses you in character has surpassed has surpassed you in religion.

Source: Madarij al-Salikin 2/2

And Al-Shatibi writes:

وَالشَّرِيعَةُ كُلُّهَا إِنَّمَا هِيَ تَخَلُّقٌ بمكارمِ الْأَخْلَاقِ

The Shariah in its entirety only creates noble morals.

Source: al-Muwafaqat 2/124

The companions understood that ethics is a science distinguished but integral to other Islamic sciences. They encouraged their students and the Muslims as a whole to seek knowledge while at the same time learning good character and manners.

‘Imran ibn Muslim reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said:

تَعَلَّمُوا الْعِلْمَ وَعَلِّمُوهُ النَّاسَ وَتَعَلَّمُوا لَهُ الْوَقَارَ وَالسَّكِينَةَ وَتَوَاضَعُوا لِمَنْ يُعَلِّمُكُمْ عِنْدَ الْعِلْمِ وَتَوَاضَعُوا لِمَنْ تُعَلِّمُوهُ الْعِلْمَ وَلا تَكُونُوا جَبَابِرَةَ الْعُلَمَاءِ فَلا يَقُومُ عِلْمُكُمْ بِجَهْلِكُمْ

Acquire knowledge and teach people. Learn along with it dignity and tranquility and humility for those who teach you and humility for those whom you teach. Do not be tyrannical scholars and thus base your knowledge upon your ignorance.

Source: Shu’b al-Iman 1650, Grade: Sahih

Good character and manners is not something that comes without effort. Just as we study large books of commentary on the Quran and Sunnah, likewise we need to study ethics and etiquette.

Raja’ ibn Haywah reported: Abu Darda, may Allah be pleased with him, said:

إِنَّمَا الْعِلْمُ بِالتَّعَلُّمِ وَإِنَّمَا الْحِلْمُ بِالتَّحَلُّمِ

Verily, knowledge only comes by learning and forbearance only comes by cultivating forbearance.

Source: Rawdat al-ʻUqala 100, Grade: Sahih

Character and manners are actually two side of the same coin, two aspects of single ethical reality. Character (al-akhlaq) are the qualities that reside in the heart, and manners (al-adab) are the outward behavior that people manifest. In other words, good manners is the result of good character. As such, we need to learn about the methods of achieving a pure heart and the social behavior that should follow it.

Ibn al-Qayyim writes:

وَحَقِيقَةُ الْأَدَبِ اسْتِعْمَالُ الْخُلُقِ الْجَمِيلِ وَلِهَذَا كَانَ الْأَدَبُ اسْتِخْرَاجَ مَا فِي الطَّبِيعَةِ مِنَ الْكَمَالِ مِنَ الْقُوَّةِ إِلَى الْفِعْلِ

The reality of manners is that it results from beautiful character. Thus, manners is the externalization of the integrity and strength in one’s inward disposition into action.

Source: Madarij al-Salikin 2/361

Since ethics has such an important place in Islam, it should be our top concern after learning the basics of Islamic beliefs and worship. It was the practice of the righteous predecessors (al-salaf al-salihin) to focus on acquiring good character and manners before seriously approaching the advanced fields of Islamic knowledge related to Quranic exegesis (al-tafsir), the Sunnah (al-hadith), creed (al-‘aqidah), law (al-fiqh), biography (al-sirah), history (al-tarikh), leadership (al-imamah), and other subjects.

Malik ibn Anas, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

تَعَلَّمِ الأَدَبَ قَبْلَ أَنْ تَتَعَلَّمَ الْعِلْمَ

Learn good manners before seeking knowledge.

Source: Gharaʼib Malik ibn Anas 45

And Malik said:

كانت أمي تعممني وتقول لي اذهب إلى ربيعة فتعلم من أدبه قبل علمه

My mother would dress me up and say to me: Go to Sheikh Rabi’ah and learn from his manners before his knowledge.

Source: Tartib al-Madarik 1/130

Ibn al-Mubarak, may Allah have mercy on him, said to the people of hadith:

أنتم إِلَى قَلِيلٍ مِنَ الْأَدَبِ أَحْوَجُ منكم إِلَى كَثِيرٍ مِنَ الْعِلْمِ

You are in greater need of a little manners than a great deal of knowledge.

Source: Tarikh Dimashq 32918

And he said:

طلبت الأدب ثلاثين سنة وطلبت العلم عشرين سنة وكانوا يطلبون الأدب ثم العلم

I sought manners for thirty years and I sought knowledge for twenty years. The righteous predecessors would seek manners and then seek knowledge.

Source: Ghayat al-Nihayah 1/446

Sufyan al-Thawri, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

كَانَ الرَّجُلُ إِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَكْتُبَ الْحَدِيثَ تَأَدَّبَ وَتَعَبَّدَ قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ بِعِشْرِينَ سَنَةً

If a man intended to write the hadith, he would study good manners and worship for twenty years before doing so.

Source: Hilyat al-Awliya 361

Al-Layth ibn Sa’d, may Allah have mercy on him, said to the people of Hadith:

تَعَلَّمُوا الْحِلْمَ قَبْلَ الْعِلْمِ

Learn forbearance before seeking knowledge.

Source: Jami’ Bayan al-‘Ilm 581

In fact, the righteous predecessors would learn more from a scholar’s manners than they would from his knowledge.

Al-Zuhri, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

كُنَّا نَأْتِي الْعَالِمَ فَمَا نَتَعَلَّمُ مِنْ أَدَبِهِ أَحَبُّ إِلَيْنَا مِنْ عِلْمِهِ

We would come to a scholar and what we learned from his manners was more beloved to us than his knowledge.

Source: Hilyat al-Awliya 4575

Ibn Wahb, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

مَا تَعَلَّمْتُ مِنْ أَدَبِ مَالِكٍ أَفْضَلَ مِنْ عِلْمِهِ

What I learned from the manners of Malik was better than his knowledge.

Source: Jami’ Bayan al-‘Ilm 581

Failure to understand the importance of ethics and its status among the fields of knowledge is causing much misguidance among Muslims today. The reason is that the advanced Islamic sciences contain complicated details related to creed, sects, differences of opinion, and confusing issues that most people do not know about it.

Only those who are strongly grounded in Islamic ethics are able to approach these issues in the best way, without causing confusion among the masses or indulging in fruitless arguments. In contrast, many young people learn a little bit of advanced knowledge, without its requisite manners, and thus they engage in sectarianism and transgression against other Muslims.

The Prophet (ﷺ) and righteous scholars warned us that bitter and self-righteous debates in the religion are one of the main causes that lead people astray and foment hatred.

Abu Umamah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

مَا ضَلَّ قَوْمٌ بَعْدَ هُدًى كَانُوا عَلَيْهِ إِلَّا أُوتُوا الْجَدَلَ

No people go astray after being guided except that they indulge in arguments.

Then, the Prophet (ﷺ) recited the verse:

مَا ضَرَبُوهُ لَكَ إِلَّا جَدَلًا بَلْ هُمْ قَوْمٌ خَصِمُونَ

They strike an example for you only to argue. Rather, they are a quarrelsome people. (43:58)

Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhi 3253, Grade: Sahih

In all cases that we will find on our way to invite to Islam, in every circumstance and opportunity, we need to remember to always conduct ourselves with kindness tolerance and listen to the person(s) we wish to invite to Islam.

When people interact with us they will remember more about our behavior our smile and benevolent attitude than our speech.

And once they will remember our discussion with us, the most vital point of discussion they should remember is not our opinion or our arguments. The most important thing is that we have reminded our guests about our Creator and how Majestic and Wise He is.

If we achieve the goal to bring our guests to remember our Creator and revive the instinctive faith we all have, then we have achieved our goal. Because it is only in the context of faith that every other evidences that we might have clarified can and should be understood and meditated upon.

Nevertheless once the first contact has been established through thoughtful and compassionate manners and some mutual knowledge and understanding has been acquired, discussing of the various aspects of the Islamic legislations, faith, rituals, and behaviors is open.

Always the tone of voice and manners that we express during our dialogue should be courteous and respectful.

We have in this book presented a lot of informations important and useful to approach different people of various social and cultural background and education.

We have also described how to establish and organize more sophisticated structures to serve in the complex field of Dawah.

From the invitation to Islam by showing the best character and manners in all aspect of human interaction to more complex educational and informational projects developed and deployed in all current means of communication, our goal and our intention should always be to seek the blessings of Allah.

If we had to resume how to invite to Islam in one word I would choose “simplicity”.

Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said,

Verily, the religion is easy and no one burdens himself in religion but that it overwhelms him. Follow the right course, seek closeness to Allah, give glad tidings, and seek help for worship in the morning and evening and a part of the night.

I would like to dedicate this humble research to my teacher Sheikh Abu Bakr Jaber El Jazeiri. During the blessed three years that I spent with him in Madina in his classes in the Masjid An Nabawi or in his home. I was so fortunate to spend many hours listening to the various discussions and questions from the many visitors that came from near and far and learned from these encounters the gentle respectful and compassionate manners in which he answered the students of knowledge, the layman, the old Bedouin, the clever youth, the thoughtful business man .

Sheikh Abu Bakr had a warmth that made everyone that approached him felt loved and cared for . Sheikh answered every questions and requests in a manner that made every seeker content with what he received.