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The silent Da’wah that is incumbent on all adult Muslims males and females.
It is our every day conduct and behavior with our families neighbors colleagues at work on our way to work at the store in the parking lot on the roads when we drive etc.

The silent Da’wah (invitation to Allah) that is incumbent on all adult Muslims young and old is how we dress and walk how we celebrate and how we mourn how we eat and how we fast how we work how we play, every visible and invisible actions we accomplish in our daily life is Da’wah (invitation to Allah).

The Prophet Mohammed (ﷺ) before Islam was an embodiment of all good manners and good character. Allah had set him apart and prepared him to deliver the Message of Islam.

لَقَدْ جَاءَكُمْ رَسُولٌ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ عَزِيزٌ عَلَيْهِ مَا عَنِتُّمْ حَرِيصٌ عَلَيْكُمْ بِالْمُؤْمِنِينَ رَءُوفٌ رَحِيمٌ

[9:128] Saheeh International :” There has certainly come to you a Messenger from among yourselves. Grievous to him is what you suffer; [he is] concerned over you and to the believers is kind and merciful.”

وَمَا أَرْسَلْنَاكَ إِلَّا رَحْمَةً لِلْعَالَمِينَ

[21:107] Saheeh International: ”And We have not sent you, [O Muhammad (ﷺ) ], except as a mercy to the worlds.”

لَقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ لِمَنْ كَانَ يَرْجُو اللَّهَ وَالْيَوْمَ الْآخِرَ وَذَكَرَ اللَّهَ كَثِيرًا

[33:21] Mubarakpuri: ”Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much.”

The Sahabas and Tabein expended the frontiers of Islam not on the land but in the hearts of all the people that they met.

Because they were so close to the example of the Prophet in belief and action.And today it is the same if we want to see the beauty and glory of Islam we have to emulate the example of the Prophet Mohammed and the Sahabas (companions of the Prophet) .

Da’wah (Invitation To Allah) As An Expression Of Gratitude To Allah
We can say safely that faith is the expression of gratitude and rituals and good manners are the means by which we express our gratitude. In the story of Adam and Eve after they were sent down to earth and Allah forgave their errors Adam was looking for a way to give thanks to Allah to have forgiven him and his wife Awa(Eve) and having seen the Angels glorifying and worshipping Allah in the Beit Al Mamun (house of worship) in Heaven by inspiration from Allah he built a small edifice to replicate the way the angels were glorifying Allah in Heaven. And him and his wife Hawa(Eve) started circumambulating the Ka’bah in imitation of what they saw the angels do in Paradise.

Gratitude has an act of worship from the heart that is expressed by our actions.

An example of this is clarified in the following verse from the Quran in Surah Al Qamar:

كَذَّبَتْ قَوْمُ لُوطٍ بِالنُّذُرِ(33) إِنَّا أَرْسَلْنَا عَلَيْهِمْ حَاصِبًا إِلَّا آلَ لُوطٍ نَجَّيْنَاهُمْ بِسَحَرٍ(34) نِعْمَةً مِنْ عِنْدِنَا كَذَلِكَ نَجْزِي مَنْ شَكَرَ (35)

The people of Lot denied the warning. (33) Indeed, We sent upon them a storm of stones, except the family of Lot – We saved them before dawn (34) As favor from us. Thus do We reward he who is grateful. (35)

Rejections or negligence regarding all the blessings that Allah has blessed us with is a form of disbelief. The all of Surah ArRahman is a clear warning of that fact.

According to Muslim traditions, Adam built the original Ka’ba as a copy of and directly below Allah’s throne in heaven. This structure was destroyed during the great Flood, leaving behind nothing but the foundation. The current structure was rebuilt by Abraham (Ibrahim) and his son Ishmael (Ismail).

إِنَّ أَوَّلَ بَيْتٍ وُضِعَ لِلنَّاسِ لَلَّذِي بِبَكَّةَ مُبَارَكًا وَهُدًى لِلْعَالَمِينَ

“Verily, the first House (of worship) appointed for mankind was that at Bakkah (Makkah), full of blessing, and a guidance for Al-Alameen (the mankind and jinns)” [Aal ‘Imraan 3:96].

Learning Gratitude
Gratitude – a simple word with a dynamic power in its meaning and application. We often forget to cultivate and practice gratitude, overlooking how life-changing it can be. An attitude of gratitude has the ability to make a harsh reality seem tolerable, giving light to a gloomy disposition and dispelling negative attitudes, thoughts, and feelings with wondrous speed.

Research done by the University of California, Berkeley, has revealed that gratitude leads to a stronger immune system, healthier blood pressure, greater joy, optimism, and sense of overall well-being, acting with more generosity and compassion, and feeling less lonely and isolated.

Participants in the study simply recorded five things they were grateful for each day. This small exercise proved to have enormous benefits. Imagine what a permanent attitude of gratitude can accomplish!

According to Islam, our ultimate gratitude is to Allah, our Creator and Sustainer who grants us existence and furnishes us with cognitive and emotional faculties, as well as the potential to understand and appreciate their value and benefit.

وَاللَّهُ أَخْرَجَكُمْ مِنْ بُطُونِ أُمَّهَاتِكُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ شَيْئًا وَجَعَلَ لَكُمُ السَّمْعَ وَالْأَبْصَارَ وَالْأَفْئِدَةَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ

“It is He who brought you forth from the wombs of your mothers when you knew nothing, and He gave you hearing and sight and intelligence and affection so that you may give thanks [to Allah]” [Quran, 16:78]

Allah, our Maker, has given us abundant opportunities, to live and thrive on this earth. From the greatest creative enterprise to the most basic regularity of our beating hearts — all is owed to Him first and foremost. If we forget the elemental requirement of thankfulness, then we are only doing a disservice to ourselves. If we do not feel gratitude to the Creator, how can we be thankful to anyone else? How can we appreciate the good things in our own selves and in our daily experience? (Did you know that one of the attributes of Allah is Ash-Shakur, the “Appreciative One”?)

Not only did Allah give us our very lives, He has provided a beautiful world for us to abide in, with countless resources for our use. Allah says in the Quran:

اللَّهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضَ وَأَنْزَلَ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ مَاءً فَأَخْرَجَ بِهِ مِنَ الثَّمَرَاتِ رِزْقًا لَكُمْ وَسَخَّرَ لَكُمُ الْفُلْكَ لِتَجْرِيَ فِي الْبَحْرِ بِأَمْرِهِ وَسَخَّرَ لَكُمُ الْأَنْهَارَ (32) وَسَخَّرَ لَكُمُ الشَّمْسَ وَالْقَمَرَ دَائِبَيْنِ وَسَخَّرَ لَكُمُ اللَّيْلَ وَالنَّهَارَ (33) وَآتَاكُمْ مِنْ كُلِّ مَا سَأَلْتُمُوهُ وَإِنْ تَعُدُّوا نِعْمَتَ اللَّهِ لَا تُحْصُوهَا إِنَّ الْإِنْسَانَ لَظَلُومٌ كَفَّارٌ (34)

It is Allah who created the heavens and earth, who has sent down water from the sky and with it brought forth produce to nourish you; He has made ships useful to you, sailing the sea by His command, and the rivers too; He has made the sun and the moon useful to you, steady on their paths; He has made the night and day useful to you and given you some of everything you asked Him for. If you tried to count Allah’s favours you could never calculate them: man is truly unjust and ungrateful. [Quran, 14:32-34]

All that we have accomplished and all that we possess are due to Allah’s bountiful provision. We must recognize the powerful concept mentioned in the verse: that we would never be able to even count the blessings Allah has given us. After realizing that Allah’s blessings are fundamental to our existence and endless in their scope, who are we to be heedless and unthankful? That is nothing less than delusion of self-sufficiency.

Fruits Of Gratitude
Thanking Allah for our blessings seem obvious, but what about thanking Him even in the midst of hardship? In the Quran, Allah reminds us:

وَعَسَى أَنْ تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَكُمْ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

“You may dislike something although it is good for you, or like something although it is bad for you: Allah knows and you do not.” [Qur’an 2: 216]

Although a hardship seems far from “something which is good” when we are enduring it, the feeling of gratitude during the difficulty has the power to transform the burden, lighten the load, and provide a perspective that looks beyond the moment’s distress. The test will, thus, be easier to bear, and the negative effects of the difficult situation will be offset by our determination to stay balanced and remain open to valuable lessons and opportunities to augment our Allah-consciousness.

Yet another fruit of gratitude is the promise of additional blessings.

وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِنْ شَكَرْتُمْ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ وَلَئِنْ كَفَرْتُمْ إِنَّ عَذَابِي لَشَدِيدٌ

“And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe’ ” [Quran, 14:7]

Being grateful to Allah will bring additional favors, while being ungrateful calls for Allah’s punishment. We will be asked about each and every gift that we have been given, as to whether or not we thanked Allah sufficiently. Will we be prepared with the right answer?

One of the most important quality in a Da’ee (an inviter to Islam) is gratitude

Let the remembrance of Allah guide you throughout the day.
Write a list at the end of each day of five things to be grateful for; keep a gratitude journal.
Practice thanking others for the simple things they do for you; write a thank you letter to someone who has impacted your life in a positive way.
Remember the people who are less fortunate than you, step into their shoes, empathize with their plight, and do something, even if small, to alleviate someone else’s difficulty.
When tough times set in, focus on the positives. Things could be much worse.
Remind yourself often to adopt the attitude of gratitude and smile!
Da’wah (invitation to Allah) is the most rewarded of all good deeds because it is firstly the work of the Prophets and once a person is lead to Islam on the account of our efforts we will get rewards for all the good deeds they did and if they have a descendance in Islam the rewards keep adding. Da’wah (invitation to Allah) is the most vibrant form of expression of gratitude for all the blessings Allah has blessed us with.

In conclusion to this chapter we see that faith and gratitude are embedded together and one is not possible without the other. From the most basic element of gratitude is to share from the blessings we have received. And is there a better blessing we have received than to be guided to follow the teachings of Islam. Therefore inviting, reminding, informing, our fellow human beings, Muslims and non muslims on how to achieve the goal for which we were created and find peace and contentment in this life and to be admitted in Paradise in the next life should be spontaneous.And if we cannot find that spontaneity in us well many verses in the Quran and numerous hadiths remind us of the importance of Da’wah (invitation to Allah).

Reminders From Quran And Hadith
Here are verses from the Quran mentioning the word Da’wah (invitation to Allah) or an expression of Da’wah (invitation to Allah)

وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ فَلْيَسْتَجِيبُوا لِي وَلْيُؤْمِنُوا بِي لَعَلَّهُمْ يَرْشُدُونَ

“If some servants of mine asked you about Me, I am indeed close and I respond to the call of a suppliant if he calls upon Me. So let them respond to My (invitation), so that they believe in Me and may be on the right side.” [Al-Baqarah 2:186]

وَلَعَبْدٌ مُؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ أُولَئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى النَّارِ وَاللَّهُ يَدْعُو إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَالْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ

“And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember. ” [Al-Baqarah 2:221]

وَلْتَكُنْ مِنْكُمْ أُمَّةٌ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى الْخَيْرِ وَيَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ وَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الْمُفْلِحُونَ

“And let there be [arising] from you a nation inviting to [all that is] good, enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong, and those will be the successful” [Aal `Imran 3:104]

وَاللَّهُ يَدْعُو إِلَى دَارِ السَّلَامِ وَيَهْدِي مَنْ يَشَاءُ إِلَى صِرَاطٍ مُسْتَقِيمٍ

“And God invites to the abode of peace and guides those whom He pleases to the straight path.” [Yunus 10:25]

قُلْ هَذِهِ سَبِيلِي أَدْعُو إِلَى اللَّهِ عَلَى بَصِيرَةٍ أَنَا وَمَنِ اتَّبَعَنِي وَسُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَمَا أَنَا مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ

Say: “This is my way; I invite to Allah with insight, I and those who follow me. And exalted is Allah; and I am not of those who associate others with Him.” [Yusuf 12:108]

قُلْ إِنَّمَا أُمِرْتُ أَنْ أَعْبُدَ اللَّهَ وَلَا أُشْرِكَ بِهِ إِلَيْهِ أَدْعُو وَإِلَيْهِ مَآبِ

Say: I was commanded to worship God, and not to associate anyone with Him. I invite and my return is to Him. [Ar-Ra`d 13:36]

وَأَنْذِرِ النَّاسَ يَوْمَ يَأْتِيهِمُ الْعَذَابُ فَيَقُولُ الَّذِينَ ظَلَمُوا رَبَّنَا أَخِّرْنَا إِلَى أَجَلٍ قَرِيبٍ نُجِبْ دَعْوَتَكَ وَنَتَّبِعِ الرُّسُلَ أَوَلَمْ تَكُونُوا أَقْسَمْتُمْ مِنْ قَبْلُ مَا لَكُمْ مِنْ زَوَالٍ

And, [O Muhammad (ﷺ) ], warn the people of a Day when the punishment will come to them and those who did wrong will say, “Our Lord, delay us for a short term; we will answer Your call and follow the messengers.” [But it will be said], “Had you not sworn, before, that for you there would be no cessation? [Ibrahim 14:44]

ادْعُ إِلَى سَبِيلِ رَبِّكَ بِالْحِكْمَةِ وَالْمَوْعِظَةِ الْحَسَنَةِ وَجَادِلْهُمْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنْ ضَلَّ عَنْ سَبِيلِهِ وَهُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِالْمُهْتَدِينَ

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided.. [An-Nahl 16:125]

وَإِنَّكَ لَتَدْعُوهُمْ إِلَى صِرَاطٍ مُسْتَقِيمٍ

Indeed you invite them to a straight path. [Al-Mu’minun 23:73]

إِنَّ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا يُنَادَوْنَ لَمَقْتُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ مِنْ مَقْتِكُمْ أَنْفُسَكُمْ إِذْ تُدْعَوْنَ إِلَى الْإِيمَانِ فَتَكْفُرُونَ

Indeed, those who disbelieve will be addressed, “The hatred of Allah for you was [even] greater than your hatred of yourselves [this Day in Hell] when you were invited to faith, but you refused.” [Ghafir 40:10]

وَمَنْ أَحْسَنُ قَوْلًا مِمَّنْ دَعَا إِلَى اللَّهِ وَعَمِلَ صَالِحًا وَقَالَ إِنَّنِي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ

And who is better in speech than one who invites to Allah and does righteousness and says, “Indeed, I am of the Muslims.” [Fussilat 41:33]

تَدْعُو مَنْ أَدْبَرَ وَتَوَلَّى

It invites he who turned his back [on truth] and went away [from obedience]. [Al-Ma`arij 70:17]

قَالَ رَبِّ إِنِّي دَعَوْتُ قَوْمِي لَيْلًا وَنَهَارًا (5) فَلَمْ يَزِدْهُمْ دُعَائِي إِلَّا فِرَارًا(6)

He said, “My Lord, indeed I invited my people [to truth] night and day.(5) But my invitation increased them not except in flight.(6) [Nuh 71:5, 6]

Islam guarantees religious freedom for non-Muslims and prohibits forced conversion and spreading the religion by violence. This teaching is established in numerous verses of the Quran and in the Prophet’s practice.

Allah said:

لَا إِكْرَاهَ فِي الدِّينِ قَد تَّبَيَّنَ الرُّشْدُ مِنَ الْغَيِّ

There is no compulsion in religion. The truth is distinct from error. [Surah Al-Baqarah 2:256]

And Allah said:

وَقُلِ الْحَقُّ مِن رَّبِّكُمْ فَمَن شَاءَ فَلْيُؤْمِن وَمَن شَاءَ فَلْيَكْفُرْ

Say: The truth is from your Lord. So whoever wills let him believe, and whoever wills let him disbelieve. [Surah Al-Kahf 18:29]

The Prophet (ﷺ) would peacefully call people to the religion with beautiful preaching and sound arguments.

Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said to a man:

أَسْلِمْ

Embrace Islam

The man said, “I find that I dislike it.” The Prophet said:

وَإِنْ كُنْتَ كَارِهًا

Even if you dislike it.

Source: Musnad Ahmad 11650, Grade: Sahih (authentic)

In this tradition, the Prophet (ﷺ) did not call the man to Islam using threats or intimidation, but rather by telling him that Islam is good for him even if he disliked it.

Rashid Rida writes:

قَاعِدَةٌ كُبْرَى مِنْ قَوَاعِدِ دِينِ الْإِسْلَامِ وَرَكْنٌ عَظِيمٌ مِنْ أَرْكَانِ سِيَاسَتِهِ فَهُوَ لَا يُجِيزُ إِكْرَاهَ أَحَدٍ عَلَى الدُّخُولِ فِيهِ وَلَا يَسْمَحُ لِأَحَدٍ أَنَّ يُكْرِهَ أَحَدًا مِنْ أَهْلِهِ عَلَى الْخُرُوجِ مِنْهُ

This is a major rule among the principles of the religion of Islam and a great pillar among the pillars of administration. It is not permissible to force anyone to enter the religion and it is not allowed to expel anyone among his people from his religion.

Source: Tafseer Al-Manar 2:256

The Prophet (ﷺ) never forced anyone into Islam and neither would he fight them because they followed a different religion. He only fought people who declared war against the Muslim community or violated people’s rights.

Ibn Al-Qayyim writes:

وَلَمْ يُكْرِهْ أَحَدًا قَطُّ عَلَى الدِّينِ وَإِنَّمَا كَانَ يُقَاتِلُ مَنْ يُحَارِبُهُ وَيُقَاتِلُهُ وَأَمَّا مَنْ سَالَمَهُ وَهَادَنَهُ فَلَمْ يُقَاتِلْهُ وَلَمْ يُكْرِهْهُ عَلَى الدُّخُولِ فِي دِينِهِ

The Prophet never forced the religion upon anyone, but rather he only fought those who waged war against him and fought him first. As for those who made peace with him or conducted a truce, then he never fought them and he never compelled them to enter his religion.

Source: Hidayat Al-Hayara 237

The many verses of the Quran that declare freedom of religion must be understood as the general rule.

Our purpose is to inform, to correct misunderstanding, to answer questions to facilitate the comprehension of the essentials of faith and primarily to awaken the hearts to belief in our Creator.

To achieve this we need to have a common ground and focus at one point on the awareness about the beauty of creation and all of its intricacies. Likewise it is important to use the pronoun “we” instead of you . Because it is we who have been lost, who had been in the wrong understanding correspondingly to the speech of Jafar . It is important to show that the guidance of Islam is a gift bestowed by Allah on whoever He chooses and we are inviters to embrace that same path. The invitee a priori is not our enemy he or she is in need of guidance and we should make it easy for him or her to embrace the right path.

We need to be gentle and at first to listen attentively to our invitee.

Indeed, Allah sent Moses and Aaron, peace be upon them, to Pharaoh and He commanded them to speak mildly to him and to begin their invitation to Islam with gentleness.

Allah said:

فَقُولَا لَهُ قَوْلًا لَّيِّنًا لَّعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَىٰ

Speak to him mildly that perhaps he may remember or fear Allah. [Surat Ta Ha 20:44]

If this is how Allah commanded the prophets to speak to the greatest of oppressors, then how much more deserving of kindness are those lesser than him?

Al-Baghawi reported:

وقرأ رجل عند يحيـى بن معاذ هذه الآية (فَقُولاَ لَهُ قَوْلاً لَّيِّناً) فبكى يحيى وقال إلهي هذا رفقك بمن يقول أنا الإِله فكيف رفقك بمن يقول أنت الإِله

A man recited this verse in front of Yahya ibn Mu’adh and he began to weep. Yahya said: My God, this is Your gentleness with one who claims to be God, then how is Your gentleness with one who says You are God?

Source: Tafseer Al-Baghawi 20:44

Likewise, Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) was commanded to begin inviting the unbelievers of Mecca to Islam with gentleness, even though they were plotting against him and the Muslims.

Allah said:

إِنَّهُمْ يَكِيدُونَ كَيْدًا(15) وَأَكِيدُ كَيْدًا (16) فَمَهِّلِ الْكَافِرِينَ أَمْهِلْهُمْ رُوَيْدًا (17) 

Verily, they are planning a plan and I am planning a plan. So give respite to the unbelievers, deal gently with them for a while. [Surat At-Tariq 86:15-17]

For this reason, the Prophet (ﷺ) was patient and forbearing with their abuse for more than twenty years. Only after the persecution became so intense was he allowed to fight back in self-defense. Even so, the Prophet (ﷺ) was given clear instructions to accept their repentance or at least accept their offer of peace.

Allah said:

فَإِنْ تَابُوا وَأَقَامُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَآتَوُا الزَّكَاةَ فَخَلُّوا سَبِيلَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَحِيمٌ (5) وَإِنْ أَحَدٌ مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ اسْتَجَارَكَ فَأَجِرْهُ حَتَّى يَسْمَعَ كَلَامَ اللَّهِ ثُمَّ أَبْلِغْهُ مَأْمَنَهُ ذَلِكَ بِأَنَّهُمْ قَوْمٌ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ (6)

If they repent, establish prayer, and give charity, let them go their way. Verily, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. If any one of the idolaters seeks your protection, then grant him protection so that he may hear the words of Allah. Then deliver him to his place of safety. That is because they are a people who do not know. [Surat At-Tawba 9:5-6]

Thus, the door of mercy and gentleness is never closed, as even the worst of criminals are given the opportunity to repent and make amends.

Furthermore, kindness and gentleness should be shown to the animals and indeed all of creation.

Aisha reported: I was upon a camel which was misbehaving so I began to beat it. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

عَلَيْكِ بِالرِّفْقِ فَإِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لَا يَكُونُ فِي شَيْءٍ إِلَّا زَانَهُ وَلَا يُنْزَعُ مِنْ شَيْءٍ إِلَّا شَانَهُ

You must be gentle. Verily, gentleness is not in anything except that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything except that it disgraces it.

Source: Musnad Ahmad 24417, Grade: Sahih (authentic)

Small acts of kindness, although it might be trivial in the eyes of people, are an important means for us to be saved from Hellfire and admitted into Paradise.

Ibn Mas’ud reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

أَلَا أُخْبِرُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَحْرُمُ عَلَى النَّارِ أَوْ بِمَنْ تَحْرُمُ عَلَيْهِ النَّارُ عَلَى كُلِّ قَرِيبٍ هَيِّنٍ سَهْلٍ

Shall I not tell you for whom the Hellfire is forbidden? It is every person accessible, polite, and mild.

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2488, Grade: Hasan

Therefore, we should train ourselves and our children to be kind and gentle in all matters, among the Muslims, among unbelievers, and even with the animals. We should resist the temptation to indulge in cruelty and savagery. Times will come when must apply justice to criminals, but we have to remember that the opportunity for repentance will remain and even a great tyrant like Pharaoh should be given his portion of kindness.

We ask Allah to beautify our manners with kindness and to protect us from falling into harshness.

Most of the time when we engage in a discussion with the intention of Da’wah (invitation to Allah) we have the advantage that our invitee knows that we are Muslims so the art of the discussion is to have him or her ask questions. And certainly if they ask questions they want to know the answers. Also if we let our invitee talk he or she will talk about himself and that will give clues about what is their personality. Different invitee’s belief background. Christians Buddhi Hindus Atheist etc.